Plan B

I was inspired after talking with a friend last night to write about this...


What on earth are single people in their mid-20's supposed to be doing?? Let's face it...it can be socially awkward sometimes! This is what normal people do: Graduate High School, go to a 4 year college, find the "perfect soul mate," get married at 22, find a job, work for a few years, and start popping out babies. Don't believe me? Get a Facebook. 


Then...there's the "Plan B" people. Those who didn't find their "soul mates," better yet - not dating! - don't know what they are doing, can't find a job, etc etc! We didn't meet expectations, now did we? Quite honestly, I think there's more of us out there than the "normal people."


I struggled with this for a long, long time. Especially because my family would always say "there's a guy out there for you somewhere." "Praying you'll meet someone." "Any special interests?" Or something of the like - quite honestly it wasn't something I wanted to hear (though they had good intentions). Then I thought I had found "the perfect soul mate" but turns out, I just dated the wrong guy for almost two years :) Don't get me wrong, he is a great guy! I still love him dearly and the Lord taught me so much through my relationship with him - I wouldn't change it for the world. But now...I'm single. What do I do now? I'll tell you what I'm doing now and this is what I tell all my single friends out of college...embrace it! 


What do I mean by that? Your life is yours (within some reason - obviously. God has a huge part in that). You are free to go travel if you want. You are free to pick up and move. You can change your career without thinking of a family. You can start grad school and not have to worry about financially paying for more than one person. There's so many pro's to being single! God has a plan for every person who is in this stage of their life. So, why not just enjoy it!? 


After my boyfriend and I broke up, I started going out to eat every Thursday night with a friend from High School. We call our Thursday night dinner's PrequelNight. Why? Because Thursday is the prequel to the weekend. She has become one of my closest friends and has been very instrumental in helping me deal with this breakup. I also randomly went to New York City with one of my best friends from college! Just go and do! I promise you - you will be so rewarded with knowing that you put yourself out there and you are living in the "now" instead of the "what if's." 


I've kind of strayed from my original point. I got tired of being scared of the future. I know I'm not the only person out there that feels this way. Why should I be so scared of something that hasn't happened yet? Besides that, I am a child of God! I just want to encourage my friends and people I don't even know who are stuck in this awkward "where I do fit in stage" of our lives....just embrace it. Life is so fun! Don't worry about the small things and let God write your love story, your life...and just go...and do :) I promise you - you won't regret it. You'll live a full life, even if it's not the one you expected.


- A